Ayinakuba sisibaxo ukuthi uMzantsi Afrika wonke wawunethemba lokubona ukuphela kocimicimi wombane kwinyanga yoMnga kunyaka ophelileyo. Ngelishwa ubuye ngamandla lo cimicimi kwinyanga yoKwindla kulo nyaka, kwaye ngoku simbona lo cimicimi esenziwa kumanqanaba angasentla kunangaphambili, ukuya kwiiyure ezingama-24. Oku kuthetha ukuba, emisebenzini kufuneka sisebenzise idatha yethu (ukuba ikhona inetwekhi yemobhayili) ukuze sithumele ii-imeyili – ngethemba lokuba iileptophu okanye iifowuni zethu aziyi kuphelelwa yibhetri – okanye silunqumamise lonke unxibelelwano ngelixa usacimile umbane; okudla ngokwenzeka kangangeeyure ezimbini nangaphezulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngethamsanqa zisekhona ezinye iindlela zokunxibelelana phandl’ apha ezingezizo ezombane, kwaye zikhangeleka zisebenza ngeyazo indlela.
Vuselela isakhono sakho sokunxibelelana uze usebenzise undalashe wendlela yokuncokola ubuso ngobuso nomntu okwisakhiwo esinye neso ukuso obusakumthumelela ii-imeyili ikakhulu kule veki. Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, iYunivesithi yaseCalifornia (i-UCLA) yafumanisa ukuba okukhona abantu abaninzi bezithanda iziskrini, kokukhona bengakwazi nangakumbi ukufunda izinto ezichukumisa imvakalelo. I-UCLA yathelekelela ukuba “abo bagcina esi sakhono baye baphumelele ngokuqinisekileyo kuyo nayiphi indawo abasebenza kuyo”. Ngeli lixa olu phononongo lujolise ekusebenzeni kwabantu abaminyaka yobudala ingaphantsana nje kwelishumi elinesithathu, akuyonto imbi ukuqinisekisa ukuba sisenakho ukuthetha, omnye komnye – ubuso ngobuso.
Enye indlela yonxibelelwano ejongelwe phantsi ngamaphetshana ancanyatheliswayo okubhala amanqakwana. Into eyaqala njengelinge elasilelayo lokwenza uhlobo olutsha lweglu ngo-1968, ngeminyaka yoo-1970 yaba lishishini lamaphetshana aqambileyo amthubi, asikwere nambonakalo ingenakungaqondwa. Isayikholojisti yebathengi (nedini encedisayo yakwiyunivesithi i-Sam Houston State University) uRandy Garner wafumanisa ukuba ukuthumela isicelo ngokusebenzisa iphetshana elincanyatheliswayo kwakunefuthe phantse ngokuphindwe kabini xa kuthelekiswa nesicelo esichwetheziweyo. UGarner ukholelwa ekubeni umyalezo obhalwe kwiphetshana elincanyatheliswayo iba ngathi kucelwa uncedo olukhethekileyo, nto leyo emenza lowo kucelwa kuye azive ebalulekile aze akulungele nangakumbi ukusithobela eso sicelo.
Yiba nethemba ke ngoko. Kuba kukho ubumnyama, oko akuthethi ukuba awunamandla. Nkqonkqozela umntu osebenza naye xa uphinde wasebumnyameni kwaye ufuna ukuncokola. Kanti sebenzisa amaphetshana ancanyatheliswayo!
